Relationship Help - How to Give and Take

Published: 27th November 2009
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Analyze your own relationship. Do you think that it is a 50-50 give and take relationship? Make the necessary changes if your relationship is not one that has 50-50 give and take. You can chose to either save your relationship or save your own individuality. You can learn how to maintain your relationship at a optimum level of give and take.

First, let me tell you the truth. It is impossible to say whether your partnership is definitively equal because it is all about your perception. As such, to succeed in saving your relationship, you need to be objective.

You need to be able to gauge objectively how much love your partner and yourself is putting in to maintain the relationship.

Money foregone can be use to measure sacrifice towards a relationship but it is not a correct and useful gauge. In fact, it is a dangerous form of measurement. You should never use money as a form of measure of love.

Likewise the really important rewards of being in a relationship can only be assessed by the individuals concerned.

When the relationship has equity of give and take, both your partner and yourself will feel being loved. There are no considerations about why your partner is giving you less attention than you have given him/her.

Growing resentment will be felt if there is an imbalance of give and take. You will begin to feel that your contribution is not recognized and appreciated by your partner.

Unfortunately, many relationships begin in imbalance of sacrifice and continue until the sacrificing partner decides that enough is enough.

There are people who are more likely to sacrifice than others and also people who only think about themselves. As such, do not let your relationship to be in this kind of circumstances.

Sacrifice of hobbies, interests and emotional ties are inevitable on both sides of a relationship. All of us will give up other relationships toward the one and only special one. Both partners have to work to find ways to relate to one another and grow within that relationship.

A balance can only be strike when couples communicate frequently about things they have done for each other and show appreciation for what their partners have done for them.

Would you say you are a giver or a taker? Would you say your partner is a taker or a giver? If you feel you are a giver and you are not being given to in equal measure, you need to save your relationship by raising this fundamental issue with your partner.


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